After This You’ll Change How You Do Everything! – Tony Robbins

in people’s lives there’s only maybe a half dozen seven eight categories that really matter most people you know they major in minor things they focus on stuff that doesn’t matter they know more about this celebrity going in and out of rehab than they do about their own personal development but I look at say if you look at your body without that everything else is out the door you don’t want to be richest man in the graveyard that’s not gonna do it if there is energy if there’s vitality of their strength it’s gonna show up in your relationship it’s gonna show up in your business show up in your life that’s it if you got a master he can’t dabble it’s too important emotions are everything I mean you got a ton of money you got everybody loves you and your primary emotions are pissed off and frustrated then your life’s pissed off and frustrated as a matter if you’ve got a billion dollars or a million people loving you your life is my great relationships intimate relationships especially it’s where the most juice and life comes from is for the most pain comes to most people it’s worth mastering instead of dabbling you know really looking at what are you gonna do with your time and master your time instead of having a checklist you cross on all off you can mistake movement for achievement I want to squeeze out that time what matters that creates value for me and for everyone I care about love what about your career or your business and the mastery of that but a dabbling most most businesses are dabblers that’s why they don’t make it 96% you know any ten-year period of times 4% naked that doesn’t mean they’re profitable and it does not mean they’re enjoying themselves all right or they’re getting anybody else to feel good really mastering money so that it’s it’s not a questionnaire lies you can do and be and give and share as much as you want you’re not stressed about your living place of minutes and then spiritually really I think I don’t tell people to believe spiritually but I believe that ultimately whatever you believe you’ve got to live it and it should lead to growing and giving if you’re growing it see otherwise if you’re giving you feel ten times more aligned and I think if someone can celebrate and give then that spiritual state so to me those are the years I look at mastering you know business for sure but it’s the areas of life that matter most and most of what we spend our time doesn’t make people feel fulfilled that’s why the average person is not fit and healthy the average person is not in a relationship where they have tremendous passion dummy I’m not a positive thinker I know the truth the average person is not successful with this the obverse is not earning what they want but you know what very few people have those things but a few do a few are happy fulfilled spiritually alive financially strong their business is growing they have passionate love affairs and I’m obsessed with finding a few who do and find out what they do different teaching to everybody everyone’s gonna measure themselves differently because everyone values things differently some people value success or significance some people value love more some value just basic levels of certainty so when I look at those specific metrics I really look at metrics of what are the things that need to be measured to know if your life is gonna work or not so I look at it as our whole lives are guided moment to moment by the state red learning how to change your state not not fake but to go from pissed-off frustrated freaked out – back in your Center or creative or determined or something that’s gonna move you forward it’s gonna create a better quality of life for you and others that’s a critical skill set so moment to moment unless controlled by our state’s yep you know if you’re an angry state you’re gonna respond differently if you’re feeling playful but what controls those states long term as your model the world your world view and I look at that as having as a metric three things that I look at I look to see first what are the targets you’re after the target is everybody has that everyone’s different goals and dreams and desires but as I travel around the world to 100 countries I started going I should have seen the same problems what’s underneath of the embassy that there are these same six human needs that we all have the same needs we all have a need for certainty that we can avoid pain and we can have some pleasures some comfort we all need uncertainty we need variety or we feel dead inside if you’re totally certain you’re barred if you have total variety or look freak out and it’s not a balance it’s learning which of these you need more as a person everyone’s developed a different set of values better um need of the need for significance to feel unique special rapport they need to feel well the need to grow and they need to contribute some people allow you certainty at the top of the that’s their center of their target I don’t want to do anything else I know it’s gonna work I don’t do anything unless it’s the same if you change anything they freak out if certainty is the number one thing on your list everyone has the same needs but it’s number one I know how your life’s gonna be I can predict the direction of your life and therefore the destination to some extent if you’re driven by love first you want certain you do that love is higher you’re gonna behave very differently than if you’re driven by significance I have to be the one so I look to see which of those needs are the top two on your list because they control your life the two that most people have 90% of the planet if you said of all these needs which one do you really focus on most day-to-day everybody wants love what do you focus on most people focus on being significant we live in a Facebook world where people fake their lives put new filters make it look different than it really is tell stories that you know are totally full of it to make himself look good because we live in this kind of false world where significance is more important than love and it separates us and the other one that we see most often is certainty people want to be certain before they can do something you couldn’t have started a business like you had if you’re absolutely certain before you started you can never build a business with that you can never build a great relationship because if it’s based on certain even everybody’s got to stay the same to never change because you’re never gonna grow which means gonna be miserable so my metrics are I want to find out what’s driving you I want to see is it healthy or unhealthy you can have two people be driven by significance though and do it with a different set of rules that’s the second piece I measure the beliefs our rules are how to fulfill that target by weight I want to be more clear about something an extraordinary life is life on your terms and there’s two parts part woman to have an extraordinary lies is mastering the skill of the science of achievement how do we take what I envision and make it real and how do I do that quicker faster better easier the ability to manifest what you come up with and make it real like you’ve done with your company yes that’s a skill set I spend unbelievable meta time helping people to a faster quicker better showing the shortcuts she’s teaching in the strategies modeling what works you can save yourself a decade but I would submit to you that having done this for 38 years with you know 50 million people at this stage I can tell you that the science of achievement there are a lot of people that are damn good at that and they still have an extraordinary lives they have an externally life you see it as extraordinary about I get the phone call from the multi billionaire who tells me wants to do this thing on his business but what he really find out is he’s miserable as hell and he’s hoping somehow I’m gonna rub off on him on that side tonight and so I give what he asked for the change in his business but I also get what he needs just the change inside of him so the second skill is the artist of saleman if you want extraordinary life you can’t just achieve you got to be fulfilled as simplistic as that sounds but it’s an art it’s not a science it’s a science to making money come on any age any color any background any gender if you do these things you’ll have an abundance of money you do these things you’re gonna have too much month at the end of the money you’re gonna financial stress right body everyone’s biochemically different be you and I both know there’s fundamental rules laws there’s a science of the body you violate that science you’re gonna have disease you’re gonna have low energy you align with that you’re gonna have an abundance of energy it’s gonna affect everything in your life it’s a science a film it’s not like that fulfillment is as different as our human things you wanna know God or the universe rikes look at the jungle look at the forest it’s diverse right so most people think well I want to get that because they’ve been modeling somebody else and that might work on how to achieve something it’ll never work for what if fulfill you how many people you know like you what you thought you wanted and you weren’t fulfilled and that I always tell people successful without fulfilment is the ultimate failure the ultimate failure because if you go out something and you fail and you’re an achiever you don’t fail you I learned something I’ll just try something else I’m gonna still get there but when you succeed and you’re not happy so a perfect example this I mentioned in a seminar you are there because it hit me about it what about a year and a month ago we lost what I consider a national treasure Robin Williams and I asked people how many you love Robin woods everybody raised her all around the world right he made people why people are touched by him so how good was he at the science of achievement I mean he want to be a great comedian make the whole world laugh he did he wanted to have his own TV show he did well the number one show he did it he wanted to make movies in it he wasn’t have an Academy Award for not being funny dramatic and he did it and said he want a beautiful family he achieved everything and he hung himself and I know recently someone’s saying well you know you have dementia he a drug abuse he had alcohol abuse most was life because he made everybody happy but whom himself that’s the ultimate failure so if I have no other message to offer your viewers and you let me give it to him right now I’ll tell you what I believe I believe our lives are controlled by one force decisions I certainly believe in force greater than myself call God if you will grace whatever you want to call it the universe but I also believe it gives us choices and the decisions we make control us much more than the conditions we meet it’s not the conditions at your decisions decisions what to believe decisions what to do there’s what to give I say to people think about you know look about 10 years ago five years ago 15 years ago and think of a decision you made but if you would have made a different decision you’d have a totally different life today better worse I don’t know but totally different the most important decision you can make above any on the face of the earth is deciding that no matter what happens in your life no matter what happens you’re gonna live in a beautiful state the decision to say I am NOT gonna suffer then if suffering arises means one thing sufferings another suffering is when you’re like suffering can be worry could be anger can be frustration it’s anything that takes you out of a beautiful state and here’s what people don’t get you can end suffering by stop focusing on yourself and focus on something you want to serve greater than yourself your children your wife your mission your life you can get out of it in an instant because the nature of the human mind is to constantly compare things your mind and your brain is a two-million-year-old device and it is not designed to make you happy it’s suicide to make you survive right and that’s what it’s always looking for it’s wrong it has to be what’s wrong a saber-toothed tiger so I can protect myself and now people are worried about what people think about them or do they have enough money when two thirds the planet lives on $2 a day and you’re making $38,000 you’re rich the poorest of the poor in our country are considered rich that’s not I’m not saying they should stay that way right but you can only build on success my goal would have you consider something life is short we don’t know how it’s got a date but if you only had a week to live I bet you would allow yourself to suffer over a little crap that makes you crazy normally I think you would probably spend time with those who loved you would do it you love you take on a sunset you’d smell the air you were taking everything and those final moments and you possibly do so my thing is why wait right right why wait why not just decide then if I start to suffer I know the solution because suffering is me obsessing about me you might say it’s not me I’m worried about my kids because they’re not doing well no you’re worried that you haven’t done enough for your kids it’s about useful right yes you know you’re worried about what was done or what you should have done or what should have done and you can end that in an instant by becoming aware of it and saying I have made the most important decision of all right I’m gonna living to be able to stay because here’s what’s gonna happen anybody watching you may lose a family member you probably will somebody may get cancer your business may the government might change the rules they might change things radically you can’t even do anything about you Michael bankrupt you might get divorced I don’t say a little bit now sure no one knows what’s gonna really happen in your life life sort of uncertainty but here’s what you can know you can decide no matter what happens you could have a great time if somebody like Viktor Frankl can be locked up in Auschwitz and come out of that and experience finding joy in the middle of Auschwitz then human beings have a capacity they’ve under sold themselves on we think that the outside world determines how we feel it’s if people have to behave a certain way if your husband or your wife or your kids or your co-workers or whoever your boss has to behave a certain way for you to be happy and if they don’t you’re unhappy then you’re always gonna be unhappy because the more people around you the more they’re gonna change them because they’re all human right my invitation is as great as it is to achieve more important to enjoy and if you can enjoy every moment in that state when you’re feeling loving and playful and passionate and curious and awe you treat other people hundred times better when you’re feeling frustrated pissed off overwhelmed worried stressed or feeling sorry for yourself you’re gonna be a better parent you’re gonna be a better lover you’re gonna be a better business person again a better life so my soliloquy is decide decide today and actually say what if I cut it off what if I said I’m not willing to settle and I’m just gonna live in a beautiful state doesn’t mean you won’t feel bad and to mean you won’t stay there you right instantly change but what the hell is success it’s hitting an expectation and I always tell people man trade your expectations for appreciation it’s a whole new world and stuff you can appreciate this moment if you can’t find ecstasy in this moment in a conversation with a friend and looking in your wife’s eyes being with your children going on a run I thought if you can’t find XA now I’m here to tell you more money more people more love more business more anything is not gonna give you more action either if you can’t do it here now you’re not gonna do it there when you got more so what I do it now and and have a rich life right now I tell people money that’s one thing like having financial abundance through skills that’s a science or wealth it’s a it’s like you can be wealthy right now I live in Fiji good porcelain time there are these villagers there they’re the richest people I know they’re happy they laugh they love they don’t give a damn about the economics other people say they’re poor when I first went there I was trying to do things for them too like what are you talking about I’m so happy wealthy people come over from the United States and they go travel around and try to figure out what to do and they’re gonna spend nine months you know years to do this in this myth so they can finally sit down and be happy and then gene guy goes why don’t you sit on the beach right now Judas Prince it why spend the nine years why not happen now that’s my invitation [Music] [Music] you

Yvette Parker


  1. OHHH wow Interviewed by Tom. TONY……… WHY DIDN'T YOU HELP WILLIAMS……..

  2. My brother has a great life. Four kids, happy wife. Stable job he enjoys. They are now in Malaysia on a mission trip but he can still keep his job. Its a global company and they have a small office there and most work is on the computer anyways. I am super happy for them. The kids are so amazing and funny. They are passionate about Jesus.

    For some reason something has always held me back. Or i let everything hold me back. I am an expert at limiting myself. I am single, no kids, just quit my photoshop job that was going nowhere. But I am happy i did that and the future is wide open. My problems are subconscious and I just have to figure it out. Consciously I am content until i think about it. My mind is always distracted and i'm mentally in different directions. I get books like Tony's and don't finish them. Except now i am taking baby steps and writing down goals and doing it differently than i have been doing.

    A life coach would be nice but i'll start off with videos from life coaches and i found a program called Knowledge For Men that seems really good. The podcast is full of successful people giving their tips and such info is like nuggets of pure gold falling from the sky.

    One thing i suggest to everybody is to stay physically active. Our bodies are meant to keep moving and the endorphins and adrenaline super charge your mind. Sitting around allows depression to seep in. Getting out in the sun is also essential. Sorry to blab. It feels good to type it out.

  3. Be the change you want to be. Life is short we dont know how short it is.Lovely encouragement bt Tonny

  4. The best people in the world are those who motivate others ❤️

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  6. This is such a powerful video. Your most important decision in life is deciding that no matter what your condition, you're going to live in that beautiful state, that you can choose to live in ecstasy right now, rather than choose to suffer (obsessing about yourself). Instead, focus on something great than yourself. Choose that no matter what happens, you're going to have a great time. As great as it is to achieve, it's more important to enjoy. Sometimes I get frustrated and want to achieve way more than I have, but then I realize that I enjoy my life more than most people I know 🙂

  7. Don't want to participate in a reality where 96% of people "fail"

  8. WOW! It was an explosion of energy, passion, faith and full of joy!!! Wise advice for anybody who wants to do something for himself. For me very valuable.

  9. When I have sex with my wife, I feel shame and disgust….I don’t understand why

  10. Don't wait for the perfect moment to be happy,and success in everything but neglect oneself is the ultimate failure.

  11. Every time it moves me more and I can reflect on the behavior and decisions I’ve made.
    Thank you guys.

  12. Focus on knowing full well well your skillset focus on improving it, learn and know the science of achievement and understand fully and concentrate on mastering the Art of fulfillment these really are three things that need to be in front in our mind, heart and soul day in day out

  13. To be honest, I watched so many of this videos I come to conclusion that this is all bull shirt.
    Why multimillionaire call you ? For business advice? Lol. only reason they call you because you are just nobody. So they can talk to you.
    Anyway you suck. I watched 100s of your videos.

  14. Great inspirational speech except the part about Robin Williams. I don't think he should have talked about him like that. Robin Williams was a great actor and he will be missed. I think Tony should apologize about his remarks regarding Robin Williams. It was insensitive.

  15. Thank you Tony for your life coaching words of wisdom. 🙏🏻 This is the 2 time I have listen to this and it is still so powerful for me. I will listen to this as my daily routine. Thank you again Tony 😁

  16. Tony I can't really get it…..life is so so ups and downs….I need help Tony

  17. There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village.
    As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish.
    The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?”
    The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.”
    “Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished.
    “This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said.
    The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?”
    The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink — we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.”

    The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman.
    “I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.”

    The fisherman continues, “And after that?”
    The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.”
    The fisherman asks, “And after that?”
    The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!”
    The fisherman was puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”

  18. Just another talker, but that's all it is " talk "… If you need a life coach to get off the couch, you will always fail no matter how many times you rewind it….

  19. tell the people who have nothing to eat. I received one answer from a woman, she responded yoga can help. He was refering to billionaires, this shows his target group.

  20. Life is full of uncertainty, but you can control that by your choices as you pass on through life. My life has been full of uncertainty since I came to America, and then I was in a horrific accident that killed me three times. I do not choose to make this incidents define me or my state-of-being. I embrace all the things I’ve had to go through and see it as a growing, or learning point in my life. You can also choose to look at it at a different way, which is a healthy choice or just minimize it, which is an unhealthy choice. There’s beauty in uncertainty, uncertainty is how we find the love of our lives sometimes. Uncertainty can also benefit you in many ways, such as wealth, love, passion, or joy. The fact of not knowing what’s going to happen is a great and undeniably beautiful because it’s then authentic. Authenticity is also beautiful, so is change. Change is inevitable, accept things as they come and you can accept anything that life throws your way. Change is good or bad, it can make you incredibly happy or feeling blue. This is my comment on this subject, if you have any differing opinions I’m always here. (Not YouTube, on my phone, but not too much).

  21. I've learned that if you don't appreciate what you have now, you won't when you'll succeed.
    I've learned that you are what you focus on.
    I've learned that it's you're decisions that makes who you are now.

    I'm going to decide RIGHT NOW how i'm feeling, what i focus on and most importantly, to make best decisions i can.

  22. Hey tony i just passes from my mom to a department and now i feel so independent that i can also bring my self a money to pay and to have it every month i can meke mony on my laevel and i believe it

  23. The greatest lesson I took away from this video is that nothing matters and his life is just an illusion that will end soon.

  24. What have you learned?
    Me: Nothing
    What you gonna change?
    me again: Nothing

  25. Be in the NOW! learn from your mistakes and teach others how to avoid them. TAKE CAR OF YOUR MIND AND SPIRIT AND PHYSICAL HEALTH. Or you'll lose your family like I did.

  26. I litterally didn't learn no fucking thing from this guy, he is so pro in talking.

  27. Hi Tony; I went to the Real Estate Wealth Expo In New Jersey Expo Center Saturday and Sunday, August 17 and 18th, 2019. I can tell you were sent by the creator to do what you’re doing here on earth. I notice you affected so many people in the audience I can just imagine how many people you’ve affected throughout the years you’ve been doing this. Your energy is so positive, i’ll be following you from the stay on because you’re affected me in a positive way. I live in Manhattan, New York. And my name is Florida Stanley-Chin.

  28. i am currently sitting in bed, computer on lap watching inspiring videos (such as this) and feeling so many brief moments of joy that have literally made me visualise and feel the best version of myself wanting to manifest into my reality.
    If anyone is reading and feels like they need something to keep them joyful each morning please do the following which is what i've been doing to bring my mindset to a beautiful state each morning.

    1. Think of the best feel good, joyful or happiest movie you've ever watched.
    2. Google the soundtrack album of that particular movie, listen to the songs until you find one particular one that brings you the most joy or happy emotions (trust me you'll know). Please note that you want no vocals or singing just the sound track as this the most effective.
    3. When you wake up do not go on phone or watch news for the first 20-30 minutes of your day, just brush, drink water and go outside if possible to get sunlight to wake you up fully and just walk outside for 3-5 minutes in silence.
    4. come back in and get your phone (or computer) and have that particular movie soundtrack song ready to play. sit comfortably somewhere quiet, relax, breathe and play that song, close your eyes and now visualise the life you know want.
    keep letting all images you see, feelings and moments that come absorb you in this joyful state and when the song finishes you can do one of two things.
    (a) write everything that you see, felt, observed down or (b) relax in this blissful state for 20-30 seconds and continue with your day with the set default of abundance and joy.

    note: if anyone is stuck on above, I myself have my favourite movie which is Intouchables (must watch!), it is french but watch with english subtitles, trust me the movie is so good you don't need english to feel the joy. my soundtrack from the movie is – Fly by Ludovico Einaudi.

    I don't know why i wrote all the above but something in me said that this would help someone else in finding joy, so if you try this please let me know if it helped you as it does me!

  29. Thank you so much. You have inspired my . I try to change my life and I can use your help a lot. Love you

  30. It starts with the body. We now have SO much science to help us get the
    most out or bodies ( nutrition and exercise ) .Virtually all of it for free.
    Is there a reason we shouldn’t all be in tip top shape ?

  31. *Suffering is me obsessing about me*… *you can end suffering

    I'm definitely watching this again.. for a number of times…

  32. You are dumb listening to this scammer who charge thousands. The one who changed after the talk is him, walking away with millions

  33. The value of life needs to be dealt with firm and be driven by the will of our God alone.

  34. This shit got me teared up.

    I've been seeking answers to my confusion, fears, procrastination and everything. Regardless if I do more or less things, it's not about how much I do ir don't do. It's about if I appreciate it or worry about it.

    Tony Robbins talks same stuff Sadhguru, Preethaji, Osho, Dr Joe Dispenza, Bruce Lipton and many other teachers, lecturers and gurus talk about.

    That oneness state they talk about may be important, maybe there's something mystical about it but what's actually understandable and achievable no matter what- beautiful state to live in.

    Suffering is about ourselves- what if it happens to me, what If that person tells me something, what if she wears this and that, this shit happened yesterday and it pissed me off, I'm hurt from ten years ago, what if someone is watching me or will attack me? All these ideas, thoughts and emotions in our head are just self-centered suffering.

    And the decision from this moment to live in a beautiful state, to bounce back to it right away whenever you are conscious of slipping away from it, to reinforce it is what many teachers talk about as a fundamental requirement for a beautiful living.

  35. Thinking that everyone defines success in the same way as you are doing it, shows your stupidity.

  36. All platitudes with no actual substance.
    It might fire some people up but most will burn themselves out, all the while parting with their money for crap like this.
    Robbins's only working career was as a handyman and janitor, no actual business experience, yet he gives advice on how to succeed at business.

  37. damn….ok, ok, I think I got it…I needed this…simply as it sounds, I think thats the truth I couldnt see as yet

  38. Health and Lifestyle matters more than relationships especially those with women whom just want a free ride and be looked after under their terms.
    I created a business 18yrs ago with the goal to give me a lifestyle of freedom to do what ever I want, where ever I want, when ever I want. My lifestyle didnt suit my cat loving wife, so she is gone. I am the happiest I have been since pre teenage xmas days. My health is the utmost important to me now, so I can savor all that life has to offer.
    Concentrate on your goals, don't deviate or get distracted. Do one thing per day to get closer to your goal and ignore all that get in your way. Time moves faster than you think.

  39. i learned that i have to not waste my life with wrong decisions and love everybody around me

  40. I’ve been building my dream, Through Pain, loss, Defeat, loss of money, people who don’t believe in me, it’s been HARD! But I will keep working out, I will keep planting good seed and I believe it will pay off! The Soldiers Of Self Mastery Movement- Awaken the Giant Within. I’m Starting Over Again. Santos Rolon Jr.

  41. This man's words come from the spirit light. if all the people thought like him, life would be perfect.

  42. Really suffering right now, I’m crying in my room alone, was looking for a support. Thank you tony

  43. Never understand people who pay $2000 for his shows. He says what you know already and it's a common sense. If you still dont know the simple things , all info is available online for FREE, 21 century people. I assume some people got motivated, BUT motivation is a temporary thing that will last you probably for a week or so. You wake up one day , and everything is same , motivation is gone. The only person who can change you is YOU, if you are really want something, prepared to change yourself , ready for " fight" , you can do anything. Slowly but steady change without motivation that will be gone with the wind. Do yourself a favor , spend that $2000 on yourself , your kids , vacation , or invest into yourself.

  44. I learned that I can be happy without worrying too much. I can feel like I am an alien in a human body. I have 1 week to live on earth and go back to my planet. So experience as much and decide what I am going to do here to be a nice and wonderful vacancy on earth.

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